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Originally Posted by FPV+fteT3
Back in my day when my mates and I had dirt bikes, cars etc the when you rode someone else's bike the rule was you broke it you fix it almost went without saying, some if not all responsibility should rest with the nut behind the wheel to repair the damage.
These days no one takes any responsibility for what happens its always someone else's fault.
The best lesson you can give the young bloke now is say "Damn thats bad luck you sort it out mate" he wont be so keen to loan the car to mates or bend the car again after its fixed. If you repair the car for him nothing is learned and this experience will soon be forgotten if it cost him or his mate some coin the lesson will hopefully be learnt.
This is what I did with my daughter when faced with the same situation she has been driving more than a year now and only had one small accident about a week after getting her P's didn't like paying for the car to be fixed so has not bent it since bit of a reality check.
Its not easy at that age, good luck with it.
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Completely agree! In my years of youth work the one thing that comes out 100% of the time is that when they make a mistake, what they want is someone who will help and support them (not necessarily) what they did). Doesn't mean you fix it, or you slide it under the rug, but be there to say "stupid thing to do, but mate I've been there and yeah it sucks, but we live and learn..."
Besides these young guys are in what's known as the "exploring stage" where they are testing to see if what everyone said will happen (in a certain situation) will or not (which comes directly after the hardest stage of all 'questioning'!!) . It's a healthy thing when us older ones get alongside and support them as a person while helping them work out that 'we know more than kids realise'.
You can't do more than that, at the end of the day they are going to make their own choices, the question is... 'who will they turn to for help when the brown smelly stuff hits the fan?'